Reflections

Christmas in September

Let’s kick this off with a short anecdotal story. So my 7 year old daughter and I bravely adventured to Costco today. For historical context, we wore our masks (with peppermint oil to bring comfort), equipped with sanitizer spray and were amongst the “counted” humans entering the establishment. My daughter treated it like it was not a disruption to her shopping experience (bonus points for mom prepping!) But then she saw the Christmas Trees—- in September. She profoundly stated (arms risen) “are you kidding me?! It’s not even Halloween!! It’s only September!” She shortly followed with a weak call to action and wanted to speak with “whoever was in charge.” As we drove past the aisles of toys and decoration- she refused to engage because it was “unbelievable.” Her shopping experience had slightly been disrupted by “far too early Christmas displays.”

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Thankful for the smiles and silliness, I couldn’t help but accept this experience as a resemblance of the current times. School doesn’t look the same. Being around other human beings doesn’t feel the same. Heck- celebrating holidays and birthdays aren’t the same. Finding humor may be our best mental health survival “life jacket” right now. Therefore, I am grateful for the resiliency our children have to help us not become ol’ grumpy folk!

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Now as we come together and “synergize,” I want to be real- life is confusing, challenging and exhausting. It’s easy to identify the disruptions and hard to reframe them into possibilities. Thus, a mindset challenge. How can we find humor that Christmas is evident in September? Are we striving for joy by activating our holiday spirit sooner than ever before? If it works- lets go for it! I will happily put my Christmas decorations up! HollowThanksmas! Let’s be jolly, thankful and spooky!

Alas, my daughter’s teacher discussed with her 2nd graders this morning about how to manage their emotional response when they experience frustration. It was the perfect day to have this lesson. I needed it too. Everything seemed to go wrong and my attitude could have become toxic and contagious. Little disappointments could have led to a day of unrest. I am grateful to have my little sidekick remind me that I could “try to do something different” instead of getting frustrated about “the things that weren’t working out for me.” Again, moments of synergy led to better outcomes.

Conclusively, I encourage you to be aware of the response you have to your little sidekick’s support and perspective of the world around them. You’ll be surprised and may find humor, insight, and honest feedback on how to navigate your day with more realistic expectations. I wish you growth and giggles as you go through your days.

Reflections

The Power of Reflection

 “Reflection is one of the most underused yet powerful tools for success.” -Richard Carlson

Reflection is defined as “serious thought or consideration” – yet it does NOT necessarily need to be revolutionary, deep or profound. It can be simple and seemingly useless as our thoughts can progress to great ideas and decisions. Therefore, I welcome you to a shift in the definition of reflection: “a thought generated by experience, new knowledge, or conversation.” With this, lets dive in using this self-generated definition of ‘reflection.’

Over the last month or so, I have once (or twice) been reminded that “what we pay attention to- grows.” If I wasn’t such a human, I would have noticed the cultivation of “seeds of thought” that I was actually “watering” rather than “uprooting.” Therefore, I want to encourage you to be self-aware today. What are you noticing? Do you find yourself drawn to certain details? Is this a “planted seed” that you are unintentionally ‘watering’? Rather, is it a “seed” that you’re TRYING to plant but the soil is not “rich” enough? Essentially- What thoughts do you want to nurture and which would you like to weed out?

A great mentor of mine and I were in a deep conversation about what brings us life. Breath. Connection. Self-talk. How we narrate our lives (the consistent scroll of thoughts in our head) is what leads us to decision making and how we perceive our self and others. Therefore, the power is within. How can we build attunement to our thoughts and self-talk? Do we have courage to truly listen to the thoughts in our head? I think there is power in journaling. As a writer, I think reading my thoughts is the purest centering to my soul.

Therefore, I propose a call to action: Take 10 minutes (or 5) and just write down the thoughts going through your head. I encourage you to do this every day at the same-ish time for the next 5 days. I can’t help but be twitterpaited to think of the discoveries you’ll make about yourself. Again, the power is within.

“Your life is a reflection of your thoughts. If you change your thinking, you change your life.” -Brian Tracy

Now- some context. The world around us is spinning. Well it’s always been rotating, but with all that is intensely circling around us, it’s also spinning. With everything that’s disrupted our lives in 2020, I would not be surprised if the earth’s speed of rotation is also impacted. #realworld2020 Though we may be in the middle of a world-wide pandemic, crazy politics, wildfire tragedy, and more, our world has seen tough sh’t before. Therefore, I can’t help but look back to some past leaders during revolutionary and challenging times and be inspired by how they overcame.

Oh my gosh. If you haven’t seen Hamilton yet. Stop reading. Watch it RIGHT now. It’s UH-MAZING. There aren’t words.

Ok, the historical author and activist I will be referring to did NOT appear in Hamilton, yet, he’s still one of the influential figures in the revolution. He authored The Common Sense and the American Crisis (influential pamphlets at the start of the American Revolution). He was an inspiration to the Patriots as they were fighting for independence from Great Britain. So yes, he was an influencer during hard a$$ times. Thomas Paine. Thank you for leadership and influence. Your words still resonate with current world times. Here are some of his notable words:

The real man smiles in trouble, gathers strength from distress, and grows brave by reflection.”

How did that ‘stick’ with you? What thoughts were generated? Read it again if needed. Feel the words and let thoughts generate. You’re encouraged to jot, draw, captivate or conversate about anything that moved you.

Circling back, today is YOUR day to connect with your thoughts and make note to what they cultivate. How do your thoughts create action and interaction? As you reflect (the most powerful action you can take)- be open to how it builds you. You can only grow by looking inward. Enjoy your attunement and reflection as you navigate a new day!

“Without reflection, we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences, and failing to achieve anything useful.” -Margaret J. Wheatley

What is Self-Reflection and Why it Matters for Our Wellness? Psychology Today article to support your application of these practices: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/click-here-happiness/201910/what-is-self-reflection-and-why-it-matters-wellness

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Starting the Year STRONG!

You want your kiddos to be well-behaved? With school-at-home, before, during and after? Are you worried about your new role as your child’s “teacher” or “learning coach?”

Well- I got you! I am going to share with you behavior management golden-nuggets to ensure that YOU feel comfortable AND confident working through the challenges of at-home learning.

After 15 years of teaching and leading, I chose to take a year of leave so that I can lean in and provide the best for my family. And guess what?! I want to share the skills with YOU!

Starting today. Right now. School starts TOMORROW. Let’s start STRONG!

Here’s a powerful proactive behavior management strategy for YOU to begin the year with GREATNESS!

Here’s the video demonstration of using the T-Graph: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fBUiFEvc6QQ&t=1s

Here’s the video presentation for using the T-Graph for rewarding behavior choices: https://youtu.be/_9ay71tdgzY

Want an implementation guide to support you? Here’s the listing on TpT: https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/Behavior-Expectations-T-Graph-Implementation-Guide-6000115

I wish you THEEEEEEE best with utilizing this for SUCCESS!

I believe in you! You’ve got this!!!!!

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First-ish Day of School on Wellness Wednesday

Oh my goodness! Was today really the kick-off to the 2020-2021 School Year? I have a SECOND GRADER now? Oh, Lord help me find the serenity……to accept the things I cannot change…. ❤ Let me start with some inspiration/support resources and then provide some reflection and encouragement 😉

So, I want to quickly start with some recommendations. I am IN LOVE with the “Little Spot” books. They are well written, and the illustrations are not overwhelming and matchy-match the mission. I also LOVE that its oriented to current times. I purchased these books and LOVE them! (Totally honest here- I have a LOT more than these 3) (My GLADiators- I want to Narrative Input Chart these like nobody’s business!) Therefore, here’s a couple links to some current-time books:

Instead of letting the tears unfold today, I am embracing the energy in my soul to support the unfolding of the one-of-a-kind school year. I have a twitterpaited hope that there is GREAT change on the horizon. I believe A LOT of things are being shifted in the right direction YET we are in the middle right now. And as I heard from Brene Brown this morning on her podcast, “The middle is MESSY, but that’s where MAGIC happens.” Thus, let’s get messy as great things are ahead.

Life is Messy…enjoy it! | SYNERGY IQ

Ok, OBVIOUSLY I hold optimism as my fuel for moving forward, but I gotta be real. I’m scared as hell to navigate the new days in front of me. I took the courageous step and put my teacher career on pause so I could mom-it-up during these days. You’d think since I’m an expert teacher and all, I’d step into these days with comfort and confidence. Well, at times, yes, but others, not so much. I am human. I struggle. Yet when I struggle, I push through knowing I’ll be better on the other side. That’s why I warmly welcome you with me on the journey. I’m choosing to be vulnerable in revealing the challenges and celebrating systematic success. Joining me on this journey will be uplifting and humanizing. It has the potential to lessen our struggles and multiply our success (and peace) in this uncharted journey. Thank you for taking the time to read and join the adventure ahead.

SO.. though it may be the first-ish day of school, you are going to rock it as a TEACHER, as a LEARNING COACH and as a LEADER. It won’t always be easy, but at the end of the day, let’s remain reflective (what went well and why/what was challenging and how could I be better tomorrow), name reasons to be grateful (even if its just eating some kind of food), and by-golly, love loudly. @generationwellness